A living list, growing as my awareness and knowledge grows.
Sex After Grief by Joan Price
The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin and Robyn Dalzen
Awareness: Conversations with the Masters by Anthony de Mello
Polysecure by Jessica Fern. I especially love chapter 9, about secure attachment to self.
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
What Happened To You? by Oprah Winfrey and Dr Bruce Perry. A great book on trauma.
Untamed by Glennon Doyle
My go-to books on premature ejaculation and erectile difficulties. Thanks to Kendra Holliday for the suggestion.
Read the full reading list here.
My Body, encouraging bodily consent in younger children
Pizza Party, when your date isn't really hearing your no
A great video by Ilan Stephani on why creating safety in a relationship has to come before any other steps
Not everyone has spontaneous sexual desire, you are completely normal if you don't get struck by the lightning of it. Watch this video with Emily Nagoski, and check out her book Come As You Are (and the workbook).
A video from Matthias Schwenteck teaching Domain, Boundaries, and Limits from the teachings of the Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin
Natalie, who talks about marital coercion. You can also find her at alwaysmending.com.
I Was a 35-Year-Old Virgin: My Surrogate Partnership Experience
While not exactly SPT, I love the movie Good Luck to You, Leo Grande. Here's a trailer, and it can be viewed on Hulu.
Become a better listener with this mini-class from Kassandra Brown
Dr K and Healthy Gamer GG, on faculty at Harvard in Psychiatry with a focus on the gamer world. He brings a lot of rich mental health information, and I especially love how he weaves in eastern medicine. I've learned a lot about meditation from his YouTube channel, including his meditation playlist.
Asexual and Aromantic Resources shared by Ela Przybylo
Other Asexual and Aromantic Resources shared by Aubri Lancaster, CSE
Yes/No/Maybe Sexual Inventory List from Scarleteen
STI Risk Chart from San Francisco City Clinic
A Shortcut to Navigating Herpes Stigma from my friend Courtney Brame at Something Positive for Positive People
The myth of self-regulation with Bonnie Badenoch, plus this conversation with Jayson Gaddis, where I first encountered the idea