Some have asked, for your work, what are your favorites? Here are the ones I always recommend starting with.
I thought it might be interesting to log my reading list from the last many years. This is my completed reads. I've browsed or bought many more, and I'm working to finish those too.
Everybody Matters: The Extraordinary Power of Caring for Your People Like Family by Bob Chapman and Raj Sisodia
The Power of No: Reclaiming Boundaries, Safety, and Your Voice Through the RIFRA Method by Tanya Dantus
The Biology of Trauma: How the Body Holds Fear, Pain, and Overwhelm, and How to Heal It by Aimie Apigian
Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame: Healing Right Brain Relational Trauma by Patricia DeYoung
To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation by Frank G. Anderson, MD
How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving by David Richo
Dissociation Made Simple: A Stigma-Free Guide to Embracing Your Dissociative Mind and Navigating Daily Life by Jamie Marich, PhD
Estrogen Matters: Why Taking Hormones in Menopause Can Improve and Lengthen Women's Lives, Without Raising the Risk of Breast Cancer by Avrum Bluming and Carol Tavris
All Fours: A Novel by Miranda July
You're Not Broken: Dr. Rhoda's Guide to Strong Self Worth for AB/DLs by Rhoda Lipscomb, PhD
Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life by Holly Richmond, PhD
Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame: Healing Right Brain Relational Trauma by Patricia DeYoung
Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live) by Eve Rodsky
Secure Relating: Holding Your Own in an Insecure World by Sue Marriott and Ann Kelley
Rekindling Desire by Barry McCarthy and Emily McCarthy
Unmasking Autism: Discovering the New Faces of Neurodiversity by Devon Price
Emotional Labor: The Invisible Work Shaping Our Lives and How to Claim Our Power by Rose Hackman
Neuroqueer Heresies: Notes on the Neurodiversity Paradigm, Autistic Empowerment, and Postnormal Possibilities by Nick Walker
ADHD 2.0: New Science and Essential Strategies for Thriving with Distraction, from Childhood Through Adulthood by Edward M. Hallowell, MD and John J. Ratey, MD
Divergent Mind: Thriving in a World That Wasn't Designed for You by Jenara Nerenberg
Cassandra Speaks: When Women Are the Storytellers, the Human Story Changes by Elizabeth Lesser
Somacultural Liberation: An Indigenous, Two-Spirit Somatic Guide to Integrating Cultural Experiences Toward Freedom by Roger Kuhn
Setting Boundaries That Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered by Juliane Taylor Shore, LMFT
Sex Without Stress: A Couple's Guide to Overcoming Disappointment, Avoidance, and Pressure by Jessa Zimmerman, MA, LMHC, CST
The Electricity of Every Living Thing: A Woman's Walk In The Wild To Find Her Way Home by Katherine May
Polywise: A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships by Jessica Fern and David Cooley
I Survived Capitalism and All I Got Was This Lousy T-Shirt: Everything I Wish I Never Had to Learn About Money by Madeline Pendleton
Shameless Sex: Choose Your Own Pleasure Path to Unlock the Sex Life You've Been Waiting For by Amy Baldwin and April Lampert
Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections by Emily Nagoski, PhD
Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good by Adrienne Maree Brown
The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks, reread this at the end of the year too
What the Fresh Hell Is This: Perimenopause, Menopause, Other Indignities, and You by Heather Corinna
A General Theory of Love by Richard Lannon, MD, Thomas Lewis, MD, and Fari Amini, MD
The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended by Sheila Wray Gregoire, Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach, and Joanna Sawatsky
Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker
The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor
The Emotionally Absent Mother, Second Edition: How to Recognize and Cope with the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jasmin Lee Cori, MS, LPC
What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma by Stephanie Foo
Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft
Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidence by Lindsay C. Gibson
Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries and Reclaim Your Emotional Autonomy by Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD
Building a StoryBrand: Clarify Your Message So Clients Will Listen by Donald Miller
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal From Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD
The Art of Somatic Coaching: Embodying Skillful Action, Wisdom, and Compassion by Richard Strozzi-Heckler
A Pound of Cure: Change Your Eating, Change Your Life, One Step at a Time by Matthew Weiner
Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be by Becky Kennedy
Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers by Peggy J. Kleinplatz, PhD and Dana Menard, PhD
I'm Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy
Emotional Magnetism: How to Communicate to Ignite Connection in Your Relationships by Sandy Gerber
Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships by Kate Loree
Women and Kink: Relationships, Reasons, and Stories by Jennifer Rehor and Julia Schiffman
Sickening: How Big Pharma Broke American Health Care and How We Can Repair It by John Abramson
Intimacy Educator: Teaching Through Touch by Caffyn Jesse
Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terrence Real
Bound: A Daughter, A Domme, and an End-of-Life Story by Elizabeth Anne Wood
Finding Me by Viola Davis
Trauma and Recovery by Judith Herman, MD
Wild Feminine: Finding Power, Spirit & Joy in the Female Body by Tami Lynn Kent
Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them by David J. Ley
Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger by Soraya Chemaly
Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear
Unbound: A Woman's Guide to Power by Kasia Urbaniak
Creating Consent Culture: A Handbook for Educators by Marcia Baczynski and Erica Scott
What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce Perry
Listening to Ecstasy: The Transformative Power of MDMA by Charles Wininger
Stranger Here: How Weight-Loss Surgery Transformed My Body and Messed with My Head by Jen Larsen
Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship by Stephen Snyder
Mother Hunger: How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance by Kelly McDaniel
This Is Just My Face: Try Not to Stare by Gabourey Sidibe
I Will Teach You To Be Rich by Ramit Sethi
Food Junkies: Recovery from Food Addiction by Vera Tarman
My Grandmother's Hands: Racial Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern
How To Do The Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self by Nicole LePera
Brainspotting: The Revolutionary New Therapy for Rapid and Effective Change by David Grand
Proteinaholic: How Our Obsession with Meat Is Killing Us and What We Can Do About It by Garth Davis, MD and Howard Jacobson
Healers on the Edge: Somatic Sex Education by Caffyn Jesse, Cassie Moore, and Mehdi Yahya
The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin and Robyn Dalzen
Breath by James Nestor
Fiber Fueled by Will Bulsiewicz
Awareness by Anthony de Mello
Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliott
Boys & Sex by Peggy Orenstein
The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy by Deb Dana
Body Respect by Linda Bacon, PhD and Lucy Aphramor, PhD, RD
The F*ck It Diet by Caroline Dooner
The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner
Together by Vivek H. Murthy
Better Sex Through Mindfulness by Lori A. Brotto, PhD
Untamed by Glennon Doyle
Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
Dare To Lead by Brene Brown
The 4-Hour Body by Tim Ferriss
1984 by George Orwell
Building The Ideal Private Practice by Lynn Grodzki
When The Body Says No by Gabor Mate
Braving The Wilderness by Brene Brown
Scattered by Gabor Mate
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
Rising Strong by Brene Brown
Daring Greatly by Brene Brown
Waking the Tiger by Peter Levine
Transformation Through Intimacy by Robert Augustus Masters
Feeling Good by David D. Burns
An Intimate Life by Cheryl Cohen-Greene
Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson. There is now a workbook too.
The Gift of Therapy by Irvin D. Yalom
Trauma: A Practical Guide To Working With Body and Soul by Christiane Pelmas
Sex Is the Least of It: Surrogate Partners Discuss Love Life and Intimacy by Tova Feder
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel A. van der Kolk
The Male Brain by Louann Brizendine
Betty Dodson Bodysex Basics by Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross
The Chemistry of Connection: How the Oxytocin Response Can Help You Find Trust, Intimacy, and Love by Susan Kuchinskas
Sex in the Forbidden Zone: When Therapists, Doctors, Clergy, Teachers, and Other Men in Power Betray Women's Trust by Peter Rutter, MD
Leading and Supportive Love: The Truth About Dominant and Submissive Relationships by Chris M. Lyon
You're Not Too Much: Intensive Lives in an Expansive World by Leela Sinha
The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
A Life Less Monogamous: A Novel About Swinging by Cooper S. Beckett
The Truth by Neil Strauss
Domination and Submission by Michael Makai
The New Bottoming Book by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
Vagina: A New Biography by Naomi Wolf
Memoir of Mourning: Journey through Grief and Loss to Renewal by Claudia Chowaniec