Used To Be Young

Oct 27

I got in the car yesterday, leaving a client’s home. Used To Be Young popped on the radio. I had heard good things about this song, but I had yet to actually listen to it. I’ll share the lyrics below.

Here’s what struck me… this is me. This hit me as a song for me… for me to understand why I feel so different than I used to, just even a few years ago.

I’ve been noticing a desire to “get back to the me I used to be” maybe pre-covid, maybe even earlier, I can’t say for sure what that date I’ve been wanting to return to is exactly. But it was a ‘me’ that was more socially active, more sexually active, just more.

I spent some time with some fellow Cuddlist practitioners in Upstate NY this summer and during a bonfire ritual, we wrong things we wanted to let go of on pieces of paper, and threw them into the fire. Someone went before me and wanted to let go of a desire to return to an earlier version of themselves. It resonated so hard and I felt inspired to do the same. It was time to let that go.

I met my partner in late 2015. I wasn’t working at the time. I was going to social events 4 nights a week. I felt more outgoing. I was involved in the kink community heavily. I was playing at parties. I was connecting all over the place.

I was new to not being married. I was hanging with 20-somethings because they seemed closest to where I was in life. I was figuring out who I was as an adult. I was figuring out who I was in general. I had never been able to openly explore myself in my previous 40 years. This was all so new, this life of independence!

Today I have a career. I have a passion for that career. I LOVE what I do and how I show up in the world in my work. And I’ve been beating myself up a bit that I’m not super involved in the kink community, that I don’t go out often (I’m quite the homebody), and I’m basically monogamous in my relationship agreements.

AND, and… this song reminded me that I’ve grown up. I’ve changed. It all makes sense. I don’t NOT like the person I am right now, I was just confused by the change. I’m following my yes, asserting my no, and practicing great self-care, especially for my inner child. I’m not young anymore. I’m practiced. I’m rich in experience. I’ve explored and I’m settled into peace and joy.

(Lyrics):

[Verse 1]

The truth is bulletproof, there's no foolin' you

I don't dress the same

Me and who you say I was yesterday

Have gone our separate ways

Left my livin' fast somewhere in the past

'Cause that's for chasin' cars

Turns out open bars lead to broken hearts

And goin' way too far

[Chorus]

I know I used to be crazy

I know I used to be fun

You say I used to be wild

I say I used to be young

You tell me time has done changed me

That's fine, I've had a good run

I know I used to be crazy

That's 'causе I used to be young

[Verse 2]

Take onе, pour it out, it's not worth cryin' 'bout

The things you can't erase

Like tattoos and regrets, words I never meant

And ones that got away

Left my livin' fast somewhere in the past

And took another road

Turns out crowded rooms empty out as soon

There's somewhere else to go, oh

[Chorus]

I know I used to be crazy

I know I used to be fun

You say I used to be wild

I say I used to be young

You tell me time has done changed me

That's fine, I've had a good run

I know I used to be crazy

That's 'cause I used to be young

[Bridge]

Oh woah, oh woah

Oh woah, oh, yeah

Woah

Oh woah, oh woah

Oh woah, oh

[Chorus]

I know I used to be crazy

Messed up, but, God, was it fun

I know I used to be wild

That's 'cause I used to be young

Those wasted nights are not wasted

I remember every one

I know I used to be crazy

That's 'cause I used to be young

You tell me time has done changed me

That's fine, I've had a good run

I know I used to be crazy

That's 'cause I used to be young

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I know I used to be crazy

I know I used to be fun

You say I used to be wild

I say I used to be young

You tell me time has done changed me

That's fine I've had a good run

That's 'causе I used to be young

I used to be young

Used To Be Young

Michelle Renee

Michelle Renee (she/her) is a Therapeutic Intimacy Specialist with a home base in San Diego, California, helping survivors feel safe in their bodies & build secure connections. She collaborates closely with licensed therapists to help clients address deeper issues related to trust, vulnerability, and connection. Michelle is deeply passionate about supporting individuals with a history of trauma, guiding them toward building safety within themselves and their relationships.

In addition to her coaching and therapy work, Michelle is the founder of SoftCockWeek.com, host of The Intimacy Lab podcast, and Co-Owner and Director of Training for Cuddlist.com.

She regularly sees clients in San Diego, Anaheim, Los Angeles, Baltimore/DC, and Pittsburgh and is open to traveling to work with clients in other areas.

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